To get the life you want, you need be in the flow of life—in other words, you need to be capable of both receiving and letting go in order to receive again. This is the key: in order to receive again, you have to let go. Using the abusive parent example, if we let go of resentment we are open to receive love and nurturing from wherever it may come. In reality that’s all we really desired, hidden underneath the anger.
We can literally let go of illness as well. We cling to our arthritis, our rheumatism, our sinus congestion, migraines, heartburn, ad infinitum. “My aching <insert body part>!” is a favorite lament of many. Unless we stop giving these conditions such a prominent presence in our lives, we will not be open to receive healing. The way to let go is to figure out just what negative process you’re hanging on to that expresses itself physically through your ailment.
Everything is constantly changing, flowing and evolving. The tree provides the oxygen which literally gives us life and in return we give the tree carbon dioxide that gives it life. We don’t hoard oxygen because we are afraid that one day there won’t be enough for us.
Right now, as you read this, take as deep a breath as you can and hold it. Do not exhale. Hold it as long as you possibly can. Can you feel the burning in your lungs? Hoarding oxygen is in direct opposition to the natural energetic flow of life so it causes discomfort, “dis-ease” if you will. Notice how uncomfortable you feel when you are holding on to aspects of your life that are meant to be let go. Our resistance to change in a universe where the only constant is change is not only inefficient and creating exactly what we do not want, it is insane! To say no to change is to say no to life.
Now exhale as fully as you can. Keep your lungs emptied for as long as you can stand it. Again, do you feel the discomfort that is caused by a refusal to receive? Similarly if you hoard money, it will stagnate and coagulate in your life. The word “affluence” comes from the root “affluere” which means “to flow.” The word affluence means to flow in abundance. Money is a symbol of the life-force; it is a symbol of an exchange of services or values that we provide to the universe. In order to get money you must give something of value. Without giving there is no receiving, and vice versa.
If you are pursuing money for the sake of power or security or some other self-serving cause, you are cutting yourself off from the dynamic flow of the universe. You must be willing to circulate your money so that you will attract more money to you. As soon as you give it, you create a vacuum to receive more. And as long as you know this and are not violating any of the other laws, more will come.
For example, if you are giving in order to get, you’re doing it out of fear you won’t have money in the future. The return will reflect this fear-based motive. Ignorance of the true Source creates the belief or fear that you are losing something when you spend money. This is equivalent to believing that your Source of abundance and affluence is limited. You are giving your energy to what you do not want. This weakened life condition will send out a low vibration picked up by the Source as a request for more of the same.
This does not mean that we should spend irresponsibly thinking that the more we give, the more we will get. It means that you are willing and grateful to pay for services rendered and enjoy responsibly the resources that you have. Sure, there are people who hoard money, and as a result they have a lot of it. However, their unwillingness to let go causes discomfort in other areas of their lives, and undermines the very reason they wanted the money in the first place: security. Furthermore, they are most likely preventing themselves from even greater fortune. Imagine a funnel: if you plug up the hole in the bottom, it limits how much can be absorbed by that particular vessel. If you want to receive money you need to give it.
Pretend you are in a large room with twenty people and the power goes out. There is no light, and no heat. Everyone has candles but yours is the only one that’s lit and there are no matches. Does it make any sense to hoard your source of light and warmth? If you walk around the room and light everyone’s candle, you will have more than you started with. And when you finish lighting everyone’s candle and look down at your own, you realize it hasn’t diminished one bit!
Hoarding harms the one who is hoarding. When you hoard, you get a lot of what you are hoarding; but you don’t get what you really want: peace of mind. The habit of hoarding is caused by an underlying fear, which is what you will continue to attract if you maintain that habit.
If you aren’t able to understand that you are an energetic being vibrating at a frequency that attracts similar energy, you are likely to believe that everything in your life is caused by external factors and is beyond your control. This belief can cause you to mis-create. For example, when someone cuts you off on the freeway, you may feel like an angry victim if you are unaware that your impatience with your partner earlier that morning paved the way for this highway exchange. Yes, your own energy made room in your life for that negativity!
Giving and receiving don’t have to come from the same place. If you send the pendulum in one direction it will return in direct proportion. This silent system is at work below the surface of things. If you do not accept this, you will always feel like an innocent victim with no power over your life. Awareness helps you see that, at the subtle subatomic level, you are causing the situations of your life to happen. If you don’t like being treated poorly, you will be careful not to treat others poorly.