“I am dealing with a bunch of idiots.”
“She doesn’t know how I feel – I would never say what I really think; I would be fired.”
“Don’t worry, I behaved like a gentleman.”
These are the types of comments I hear every day.
It seems there is a widespread misconception that if we just keep our mouth shut, no harm no foul. Many believe that if nobody sees the conflict between what we think, how we feel and what we say, then we can control how we are perceived by others.
This is impossible!
As within, so without. We can’t plant pumpkin seeds and hope to grow roses. Our thoughts are seeds that are planted in the fertile soil that is the depths of our mind. As with seeds buried underground, we don’t see thoughts. These seeds sprout in our speech and bloom in our action.
When we say something we don’t mean, we are expecting the listener to believe that our pumpkin sprout is actually a rose sprout. It won’t be long until that sprout comes to full bloom and our pumpkin is impossible to pass-off as a rose.
Energy is how we water our garden. Positive (honest, open, willing, compassionate, optimistic and loving) energy will grow thoughts, words, deeds and results that are beneficial to everyone. Negative (fearful, resentful, jealous, anxious, dishonest, secretive and hateful) energy gives rise to thoughts, words, deeds and results that are destructive to common purpose.
The more energy we give a thought, the harder it is to disguise. If a thought is not helpful, it is far easier to nip it in the bud at its inception. If we pull our attention away from it, then we can correctly say, “No harm no foul.” Our other option is to replace the thought. Dig up the pumpkin seed and put in a seed that is in line with a solution and/or positive outcome.