Changing How You Look at Things Changes What You’re Looking At

I want to show you how you can end stress associated with control issues.  Actually, that’s redundant!  Isn’t all stress caused by feeling powerless to guarantee a desired result?

One of the most important principles underlying everything I say and do and teach is: Life is Lived From the Inside→Out.  There are many potent principles associated with this Truth.  One of the more challenging and equally rewarding to use is: Thoughts Are More Powerful Than Words or Things.  This principle is challenging because it rarely produces instant gratification and we can’t prove cause and effect at this level.  And yet, if you pay attention, you will know that all the events of your life, began at  the invisible level of thought.  Awareness is key.  If you are not paying attention you will miss it and dismiss the most effective way to create the life of your dreams.    When we understand that our inner world creates our outer world, we know that trying to control people, places or things to get what we want is an option on par with rearranging the deck chairs on the Titanic.

The formula is simple:

  • Become aware of stress.
  • Change your perspective by looking at the scenario from the perspective of the other person, the institution or an impartial observer.
  • Reinterpret the situation.  Spend as much time as it takes to imagine a way to  interpret the event(s) that benefits you.
  • Adjust your attitude by acting as if this interpretation is the correct interpretation.  
  • Use this perception every time the topic comes up.
  • If new information is presented about this topic that negates this, simply repeat the steps.

Many years ago, one of  my best friends betrayed me.  I was divorcing my husband at the time.  I felt like I had been abandoned, unappreciated, unloved and alone when I couldn’t save my marriage.  I was so afraid, depleted and depressed.  This was one of the darkest periods in my life.  To make matters worse, I discovered that friends and relatives don’t like when you upset the apple cart.  At least, back then in my little world, divorce came with stigma attached.  My friends weren’t happy that I became a single  mom and my relatives were not too thrilled with the idea of a ‘failure’ in the genealogy.

One of my go-to ‘peeps’ was so disturbed by my decision, that she set out to destroy my reputation.  My situation at the time was rife with highly effective circumstantial evidence that could be used to ‘frame’ me.  I was the unwitting starlet of my soap opera.  I faced accusation and rejection from people I loved at a time when I needed them most.  Luckily, I already had a bit of an awakening having read Deepak Chopra’s book, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success and James Allen’s classic, As a Man Thinketh.

We reap what we sow in thought word and deed.  This is inescapable.

This  meant that I was enduring that particular undesirable ‘harvest’ because of seeds I must have sown in the past.  If I wanted a different harvest, I would have to plant new seeds.  I would have to change something.  In this case, I first had to figure out what seeds I had planted – because I had no idea what I did to get those results.  It seemed so obvious to me that she was the problem and I was the victim!  How could I ever find a way to take responsibility for this cruelty?  Then it occurred to me.  My life had a very strong theme running through it.  From the day my father died when I was a young girl, I developed an increasingly powerful victim lens  through which I perceived seemingly unprovoked unwanted circumstances.

I needed to reframe my perception or I would keep real-izing these types of scenarios.  I remember feeling so grateful that I had figured out why I often found myself saying, “Why me?”  The warm and cozy blanket of denial known as self-pity is particularly challenging to remove.  It feels so good to blame others because it gives a brief ego-driven high of  righteousness and… quite conveniently, if you are at fault, I don’t have to change.   You do!  Unfortunately,  blaming others also means my happiness is dependent upon other people or scenarios beyond my control.  Why would I choose this feeble strategy?  Fortunately, by assuming responsibility for all the circumstances of my life, I give myself response-ability.  I can respond to an affront, insult, set-back, etc. in a way that will diffuse any negative energy associated with me and begin to build a new momentum in the direction of my choosing.

Awareness of my thoughts, feelings & emotions and the  consequences of owning or validating them, gives me the power to choose the next chapter of my life.  Conversely, if I am not paying attention to the activity between my ears(positive or negative),  I give up my freedom to choose whether what comes next is beneficial or harmful  to me.

In the case of my  friend, every time a realized I was obsessing, or got a strong feeling of self-pity or resentment, I stopped what I was doing so I could address the situation, because I knew it would be a runaway train in no time. I used to take a moment or longer to bless her and forgive her.  Pausing for a minute helped me to remember that what she thought she was doing to me, she was actually doing to herself.  She could only harm me if I ‘ate the poison’ by reacting to it, thereby tacitly agreeing with the charges. In pausing, I could also reflect on  the  thoughts that came before the gripping sensation associated with my earlier negativity. Once I identified what tapes were playing in my mind, I would replace them with new ones that made me feel better, stronger, wiser, happier, positive, etc.  I could access compassion  for her because I knew that what we ‘send out’ comes back multiplied. I knew that she had no idea of the havoc that her behavior would wreak on her life later… or she wouldn’t do it!  Meanwhile,I knew I  was fortunate because I could choose to return unkindness with love knowing that I will be so happy when  that love comes back to me exponentially.

I was vigilant about harboring no ill will.  However, I did not seek her friendship either.  That would have been an act of cruelty toward myself that would also bring an undesired harvest.  In less than a year, it was time for her to reap the harvest of the seeds she planted with me.  Misfortune she never could have imagined caused her much shame and threatened her good name and reputation.  She found herself in a very compromised situation suddenly overwhelmed by new responsibilities thrust upon her.  Without batting an eyelash, I assumed as much of her load as I was suited to handle.  Her young daughter spent the better part of a year with me going home at night just to sleep.  I did whatever else I could do. The past never occurred to me.  This is why thoughts are more powerful than words or deeds.  My response to her suffering that resulted in a beautiful win-win for all parties, was only possible with a pure heart.  If I had continued to have a grudge, I could have felt vindicated.  I may have enjoyed some twisted sense of satisfaction that ‘she got what was coming to her.’ I promise you, this would have caused subconscious self-loathing and an unintended negative spiral that I would not believe I deserved!

Instead,after a couple of years, my decision to force myself to feel compassion instead of resentment (even when I didn’t mean it at first) reaped a harvest that continues to feed my soul today.  I have in her, a most loyal friend.  We have trustworthy friendship based on respect, personal responsibility and generosity of spirit.  Perhaps even more importantly, I gained so much self-respect by honoring the Golden Rule.  Gold it is!

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Thoughts Become Reality

The mind has two jobs.attract health and peace of mind
Its 1st function is to translate energy and information, thereby giving us an experience of life that we call ‘reality.’ However, if you have ever gone mindless, or into the zone, on a road-trip or other engulfing activity, then you know it is possible to function fully without experiencing any of the stimulus that surrounds you. This demonstrates that reality is more than the energy & information we can identify…with our mind, which is not only part of the identifiable world, it is actually creating it within the confines of its nervous system. The damage caused by the misconception that ‘seeing is believing’ makes this point worth repeating:
Reality cannot be limited to that, which can be 
identified and measured.
We know that anything that is identifiable or measurable is some form of energy and information vibrating on & off at the speed of light.  We experience on (the stimulus or the known) because of the off(silence). It  must follow that reality  consists of both the on and the off.  When our awareness slips out of  the silent ‘ zone,’ it begins processing some of the data in its environment again and we feel deceptively safe back in the known once again.  Most people misinterpret what happens when we slip into that pure Awareness, which is a silent and motionless ever-present aspect of reality – unknown by minds addicted to the stimulus of mental activity. They become fearful that they could have had an accident.The mind feels safe in the known, even if it is unpleasant, because it believes it knows how to handle what is familiar. Attempting to regain control, people work harder to focus on the stimulus ‘coming at’ them.
This misinterpretation prevents a magnificent discovery!
  • The stimulus aspect of our being is temporary; the silence we can get access to is an eternal aspect of our being.head.mind projector
  • We can slip in and out of eternity with our awareness.
  • We function without thinking or any awareness at all.  Our brain is just allowing us to experience life.
  • Reality is movement of Awareness between dense stimulus (physical), subtle stimulus (thoughts, emotions) and no stimulus (silence, soul, spirit, Source)
  • Nothing originates in or from our mind and body.It is all being projected out from the silence underlying all experience.
  • We can change the stimulus we wish to experience by shifting our awareness far more efficiently (seemingly miraculously) than trying to physically or mentally change what has already been projected.

Ironically, the mind’s second function, protecting us, becomes a hazard blinding us to True security, the infinite Source of Power and potential.

When babies are born, we must train them to shift their awareness away from the silence and begin processing the stimulus. After years of relentless directions to pay attention, focus, and listen, we become conditioned and eventually addicted to stimulus. As if we are  under hypnosis, we become programmable and don’t even challenge our assumptions. We forget the silence that was once our home. We can’t see, hear or feel that it is always right here with us. We are left with a hole that never seems fulfilled. Something is missing, but we don’t know where to find it. It can feel like homesickness.

It is soul-sickness.

 

We will lack peace of mind and feel incomplete as long as we remain unaware of our imprisonment in the stimulus believing that it (either the problem or the solution) is coming from “out there” and separate from us. Conversely, the stress or dis-ease of overstimulus, and the failure of ‘the world’ to quell our angst can cause us to question our thinking and surrender in humility. The release literally re-opens the path to the silent Awareness we knew as babies.  Letting go of the known creates access to that ‘peace that passes understanding’ with the rational mind because this silent, eternal Source of temporary temporal reality can only be known through direct experience. Most people believe they must die to get access to it because they can’t stop thinking long enough to move their awareness beyond the known… except by chance, as when we drive long enough to unintentionally slip into the zone, which is at once misunderstood and feared.   

The relief of letting go is realization of the soul. 
Occasionally, a peak experience of shock or awe will cause us to reconnect with the memory of wholeness.  This is either described as Nirvana or a ‘out of body experience. In our hypnosis, we have become so divorced from ourselves that we don’t understand what happened and have no idea how to find our way back to it. Like babies  needing  indoctrination into the world of form and phenomenon, we need guidance finding our way back to real-ization of that Silence in our daily lives. When we do, we are no longer delusional as we wander around what we thought was reality:  the two-dimensional world of our making. We awaken from that dream (nightmare?) to the 3-dimensional (mind/body/soul) Truth that eluded us.   
This is heaven on earth.   
After this awakening and learning how to continue accessing that Peace through direct experience of all three aspects of our being (mind/body/spirit), we personally Know ‘the end of the world’ experientially. Nothing happens to us. Nothing has any power or control over us.  All of our experiences are projections from our Soul (Source). The fear or pain we feel is acknowledgement that our Soul cannot get through to our mind or body.  It is your soul’s urging to let go of your fixation “out there.”  If we would pause and connect with this non-rational communication, our life would become miraculous!

TUNING IN

Science has already advanced to the point of rendering belief in matter to pure superstition. And we are each already experiencing many ‘miracles’ of this discovery, like the internet. The end of the Mayan calendar is the beginning of synthesizing the implications of the end of Materialism into our daily lives – how we perceive things and the choices we make. It is movement toward a tipping point in the Collective Conscious’ understanding that we are like satellite dishes.  We are tuning into our experiences and at any time we can direct the dish to ward a different location to choose a different channel and project a more enjoyable show or “reality’. 
We can choose to  our experience of the end of the material world as rapture or rupture. 
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The only change that is taking place is in our awareness. It is such a subtle change, and yet its Power is beyond our comprehension. The old sources of power built on faith in materialism, limitation and separation will continue to crash around us. The energetic shift that is underway reduces the buffer of time between start and fruition of an idea. For a mind that is steeped in the intellect, the illusion of separation, belief in limited resources, and a perception of a reality ‘out there,’ these could be trying times.  The old sources of power built on faith in materialism and separation will continue to crash around us. The need to protect, deceive, control, overdo, or stress will become a self-fulling prophecy faster now.  It will seem like our thoughts are known.  Actually, they always were! We can’t fool Mother Nature. We were only fooling ourselves. Because of the buffer of time, we could not identify the cause in most of our experiences; so when someone cut us off on the highway, we felt victimized…forgetting the snipe we gave earlier that day (rude to a spouse, family member, co-worker,etc.).
More and more we will experience instant karma or instant gratification – and we will be ‘known by our fruits.’  
The love, altruism and appreciation in our hearts will be more obvious than ever. Jealousy, self-centered fear, negativity and resentment will produce like effect quickly. For a mind that is able to go with the flow, let go of the known and perceive opportunity in every apparent obstacle, this times will be increasingly effortless and joyful.
Self mastery is more important now than ever!

NASH FLASH

THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

BEHAVE

Be —> Have

How you act (be) now is commensurate with the experiences (people, places & things) you will have later.

 

NOTHING CHANGES IF NOTHING CHANGES

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Important to remember that railing against what you don’t want attracts more of what you don’t want.

Digging up old memories of similar situations is why history repeats itself.

 

BE THE CHANGE. NOW.

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