Why is it so difficult to stay present? (part 2)

  1. Awareness is a must for the next requirement, which is willingness.  We must have enough desire to do the work or we will simply default to the path of least of resistance… the way it has always been.Going Your Own Way on Blackboard
  2. If changing was easy, more people would be satisfied with their life on all levels. We have discussed that change is difficult because we are hard-wired to trust our thinking… it is all we know! We have learned that this is a problem because we continually need new coping and thriving mechanisms as our lives evolve in a world that changes around us in ways we cannot control.
  3. When I realize that my freedom is on the other side of this fear of the unknown, I become willing to move through the discomfort of the perpetual flux of each moment.  This means I let go of trying to control people places and things to make them fit into my known reality.  I avail myself of the presence of mind which adapts to the flow of life that creates the cosmos and everything in it.
  4. If I don’t do this, the pain of forcing my perspective on everything will likely cultivate the willingness in time.  Choosing to move through fear is a far more efficient and pleasant path to happiness than being dragged through the inevitable.

…to be continued.

My awareness of these principles was not enough for me to become entirely willing to change.  I wanted to be willing, but I found it so challenging to change.  Yesterday, I used the example of yelling at my two-year-old daughter even though I didn’t want to be that type of mom.  I had the awakening that my thinking (not my child) was the culprit when she was six years old.  I made many attempts to change but found myself going back to her to apologize to her more times than I care to admit.  Without going into detail, I will just tell you that it took ten years for me to totally destroy my credibility with her.  I knew I had pushed her too far.  The thought that I would lose my daughter was my bottom.  I was finally in enough pain that I became willing to let go of “my way” altogether.  I became a listener and the wind at her back.  It took some time to win back her trust, but I let go of my fear about that too! I knew that if I held onto thinking that keeps me in regret (past) or fear (future) I would disconnect myself from the Power that is only available now, the power to trust in goodness and love and walk into my vision for the future.

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Why is it so difficult to stay present? (part 1)

  1. The brain is like a computer.  It uses the operating system and programs that the factory and or you download into it.  If you have not downloaded an Adobe Acrobat reader, a PDF file will look like this to you when you open it: ¤◊◊◊∏◊◊◊◊◊◊—∇◊∏∪◊⌈◊◊◊〈∇»Ξ∴◊◊
  2. So too with the brain.  If an experience, opinion, behavior, etc., was not in our social conditioning (programming), we will tend to dismiss it or disagree with it, and we will not be able to access the opposite without intentionally focusing and downloading a new program (behavior, perception, etc.).
  3. So the first challenge to staying present is understanding the automation in the brain that lulls us away from seeing each moment through the unbiased lens without the overlay of historical programming.  We have to want to challenge our thinking and our assumptions if we want to access the present moment and its gift of pure potential, inspiration, and Power. When we humbly accept that we have not received and downloaded all the very best hardware and software available to date, we are blessed with the  awareness that our conditioning is
    1. often causing damaging perceptions,
    2. locking us into a default operating system that uses the same coping mechanisms (programs) over and over even if they haven’t worked in the past,
    3. and producing automatic, often undesirable behaviors…

…to be continued.

I will never forget when my daughter was just two years old, as I was yelling at her for refusing to get out of her bathtub, she looked up at me and said, “Someone must have been mean to you when you were a kid.”  Oh, my….out of the mouths of babes!!!!! The blood rushed out of my head.  I had a great Mom, who also (understandably) yelled at me and my three siblings quite often.  We were a handful and she was raising us alone.  My dad died leaving her with four children under the age of 11 and she had to work full-time!  Decades later, I was a mom with none of those stressors.  But I coped with defiance as if I did have the weight of the world on my shoulders.  I hated my behavior.  I wanted to be Supermom, but I couldn’t see that I was causing my life pattern to repeat by awfulizing the moment and reacting as if my hair were on fire.  I loved and still love this child more than life itself and yet, I couldn’t change because I didn’t challenge my perceptions.  I thought she was out of control, but it was really me who was out of control.  You will see in later posts that in time life forced me to examine my thinking and begin to change how I see things.  I became able to use this type of resistance to the moment to get my attention and then make a shift.  I began to captain my ship.  It took focus to turn the ship around, but my awareness that the momentum of my past course was trying to prevent me from my new direction, gave me the willingness to let go of judgments and demands of my old life.

POST MAYAN CALENDAR MISINTERPRETATION MESS

THE END OF THE WORLD

THE END OF THE WORLD

The end of the world is an oxymoron.  How can something end, if it never began?  What has  been ending is our belief  in matter.  In Sanskrit the term “Maya” means illusion. The end of the Mayan calendar is the end of the illusion of the world − the end of the illusion of time and space. We already know and have known for thousands of years that matter does not exist. What we believe is solid is actually energy and information vibrating at the speed of light. Our nervous system cannot process data at this speed; so it gives us an illusory experience much like the way films make a series of still frames seem like fluid movement. We have also known that there is no such thing as time. All we have is the present; everything else exists in our imagination only.

What we experience as the world is an illusion, a trick of the senses.

In our lifetime the prevailing languages of this phenomenon are science and technology. The knowledge underlying both paradigms also underlies the languages of art, religion, philosophy and love. It also underlies language itself, which is why I am so fascinated by etymology. The scientific and technological paradigms are so exciting and beneficial to our human experience…provided we don’t allow them to enable the ‘lie’ and become dependent on them. We must understand the implications of the fundamental knowledge underlying every paradigm – especially now after the end of the Mayan Calendar.

What comes after the end?

After the end is the realization of eternity. The end of the Mayan calendar is the beginning of awareness of oneself as an eternal present moment experiencer. We stop identifying ourselves with our experiences and the objects of our perception. We begin to understand matter as movement of energy and information on the screen of our imagination. This is like snapping out of terror, anxiety or deep sadness as we watch a movie and remember that this is only a projection; we regain peace of mind because we know we have a choice.  We can leave the theater, change the film, or ride it out to see what happens.  We remember that we are there for our enjoyment. In our personal lives we begin to relax in the knowledge that what we call “reality” is a projection of our consciousness as a result of our focusing with such intensity that its density now appears to us if it is in formation.

We must stay present to avoid being tricked into the belief that what is “out there” is happening to us or has any power over us. When we are present, we see ourselves focusing everything into existence. When we are present, we know if we are choosing a constructive or destructive focus. When we are present, we know we can arbitrarily choose a different perspective or interpretation that feels better, more loving, empowered, and aligned with us. We can choose to respond to an insult with compassion instead of reacting with more toxicity. That tiny shift chosen from the position of present moment power – free from the powerless enslavement of past conditioning – empowers us to create a different experience that will have a strong foundation. Therefore, when we are present, the outcome is not in doubt. Ultimately then, when we are in the present, we are not afraid; we lose interest in controlling outcomes or people. We also know that no person, place, circumstance or thing has any control over us.

For people who have learned to let go of any false power (titles, positions, degrees, wealth) and joyously step into true Power, this will be a miraculous transition. We don’t give up the titles, or the positions, degrees or wealth. We just give up the illusion of their power to give us what we want. Rather, we have all of those things as a result our demonstration of true Power, which affords us authentic, joyful focus in the present moment…eternally. For those who cannot or will not apply this to their daily living, this could be a bumpy ride.

Henry Reed describes the different approaches as a choice to experience the shift as rapture or rupture. I love that.

Science and technology gave us the Internet as a result of this knowledge that everything is energy and information coming from one source that is accessible from any and every pinpoint of space and time. The invisible interconnected web of existence that had been inaccessible to the majority of humanity arose in physical form via a computer that mimicked it. We simply focus the computer according to what we want to experience and… voila! It is crucial to understand that this knowledge of the Truth of Oneness is what gave birth to the idea of the Internet. At this time when the illusion of form and separation are breaking down, we need a clear understanding of our own ability to tap into and create from this same source. We also have instant access to this seemingly miraculous, instantaneous information and power. Unlike a computer, we can originate. We can choose what we will experience with and without a computer. The miracle of this awakening is the understanding that if we shift our focus, we shift our experience. We can look at the same person, place, thing or experience with a different perspective. This will change the energy and information of what we are experiencing and its nature must change as well, as if we are photoshopping our experiences.

Please understand that in this post Mayan Calendar atmosphere, this seemingly subtle nuance will have cataclysmic impact on your future.  The intangible shift from perceiving reality as something that happens to you to from you, opens the path to joy, freedom and pure rapture as  you navigate what might  seem like rupture or destruction to  those who have depended on  the old paradigm.  If you don’t see the impact of your perceptions, you are not paying close enough attention. Termites do more damage annually than all natural disasters combined. When a butterfly flaps its wings as it flies in an area off the tip of Africa….

Tune in later in the week for some clear examples of how the shift is experienced as rapture or rupture as well as important tools to make choosing rapture effortless…

AWFUL-IZING

The other day I received a phone call that gave me pause.  Someone I know quite well was pleading with me to vote for the presidential candidate of their choosing.  They had seen videos and heard expert testimony about the perils that will befall our country if the other guy wins the election.  I have seen this sort of projection on myriad topics, many of which fall within the purview of a candidate’s platform. Topics ranging from healthcare, to global economics, to environmental policies, education and morality are a wellspring of catastrophic predictions on either end of the spectrum.  I gave my usual response:

  • The act of noticing the relationship between cause and effect is realization.
  • Paying attention to any aspect  of cause and effect (potential or actual) with strong emotion and/or absolute certainty (belief) is the process of real-ization.  WE make it real or perpetuate it.  Our attention transforms potential to actual/real.  Knock and the door will open.  Seek and ye shall find. 
  • This is the fulfillment of The Law of Attraction.  What we call ‘reality’ is actually bundles of like energy & information vibrating at the speed of light held together by a force we call electromagnetism. 
  • We attract our experiences. Like attracts like. The outcome is determined by the observer’s expectation.. That is why science uses double-blind studies and placebos. It is also why they cannot get a certain predictable outcome…ever.
  • Paying attention to what is not wanted is equal to asking for it
  • We are not here to fix.  We are here to CREATE. 
  • Let it be.  Accept.  Contribute with a positive, loving vision with unwavering faith in the goodness of all.  It is possible to be of service and value in EVERY situation without having to denigrate what is or who is doing what! You will like what you see.  I promise.

These Truths are undeniable and inescapable.  They agree with every religion, philosophy, science, tradition, experience, etc.  They need as much belief as electricity.  Having awakened to this reality, I marvel at how I can ever fall back to sleep!  Having once been blind, why do I ever choose not to see again for a time?  It begins when I puff with the pride of ‘righteous’ thinking.  It is my old nemesis, that ignorant perception, which urges me to judge captiously making me think I know better or am better than another.  It is always followed by a faint twinge, a constriction, or uneasiness. 

 

Thankfully I know now that my discomfort is my IGS (Inner Guidance System) alerting me to the fact that I am real-izing what I do not want.  I need to stop fault-finding and recognize that my thinking is wrong.  I am at once profoundly appreciative of the fact that I can never be permanently lost again.  I know the way out of my messes now.  Fortunately, I no longer stay in the discord and can re-awaken. Then, if I have taken my ignorance to the point where an apology or amends is necessary, I do so promptly and get back to the business of joyously creating my vision.

 

The person that placed that persuasive phone call to me replied with a very familiar caveat explaining that after years of listening to me sing this refrain, finally embracing these Truths was life-changing; BUT this political situation is scary, urgent, and it is a reality!  That is like saying gravity applies to small items and not large ones.  Many of my clients are ‘successful’ individuals who know these Truths and revere the great masters and agree whole-heartedly with that which is undeniable and yet they defend ‘justifiable resentments,’ embrace a sweatshop mentality with regard to work, believe in competition, compromise themselves and their hearts desire for ‘security,’ and beat themselves up for missteps, etc. 

 

It is important to discern and make choices.  That is why we are alive.  In order to experience the joy of creating, it is necessary to make choices – that make us feel loving, open, inclusive and expansive.  Any sense of physical or emotional constriction is your sign that you are momentarily on a path to destruction.  Let go for a moment.  Release what you are resisting.  You will be creating/contributing again in an instant.  You can create the life of your choosing…adhering to this simple formula. If you make a habit of shifting your perception from positive to negative, denigration to elevation, destruction to creation, etc. and observe the results, you will know that this Truth is self-evident.  

 

I will enter the voting booth in November and make the choice that seems  most in line with my vision of joy and peace at the time – knowing the only thing that really matters is that I elevate all that I behold and nurture a vision of joy and peace and love regardless of who is “in charge!”  How reassuring to know that this is not wishful, Pollyanna thinking…that the science is there to back it up.  The Beatles are absolutely correct.  All you need is love.

 

RIGHT IS DEAD WRONG

  • Do you know someone who ‘needs’ to be right?
  • Have you ever felt like you won an argument?
  • Have you ever argued for your point of view?
  • Have you ever accepted proof as the arbiter of right and wrong?
  • Have you ever changed your mind?
  • Do you see Albert Einstein in the picture above?
  • Can you prove you saw Albert Einstein?
  • Can you see Marilyn Monroe in the picture above?
  • Can you prove you saw Marilyn Monroe?
  • Can you see Albert Einstein and Marilyn Monroe at the same time?
  • If I see Einstein and you see Marilyn, who is right?
Ironically, being right is a sign of ignorance. 

 

WHO ARE YOU?

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