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NASH FLASH

THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

INSTANT GRATIFICATION

SHORT TERM GAIN = LONG TERM PAIN

Controlling people use force, manipulation or intimidation to ‘succeed.’

Leaders use personal Power, magnetism or inspiration to succeed.

Can you guess which one gets what they are seeking?

NASH FLASH

 BELIEVING IS SEEING

 

 Therefore, when we believe that seeing is believing, the notion that history repeats itself becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy by default.

Out-of-the box thinkers, visionaries, true leaders and Powerful people don’t look to history to decide our future.

 

Week 1: TOOLS – What You Need to Know

“Knowledge has infinite organizing power.”

−Deepak Chopra

I will be posting some important points to ponder over the coming days as you expect my next video blog, when I will introduce the first tool/discipline required to gain control over your thoughts, words and deeds:

The first point: THOUGHTS ARE NOT FACTS.

The brain is a non-conscious organ that functions like a computer processing ONLY what it can with the programs  installed on it.  If the brain has not been given the software to process information (through formal education and/or socializing), it computes the material as nonsense, much like a pc would read a Word document without the Microsoft Word™ program installed. The document is not nonsense simply because our pc doesn’t have the programming to understand it.  It is, however, nonsense to dismiss the document as nonsense!  There are many ways to compensate for different operating systems and programs so that the facts on the page, which remain absolute regardless of processor, are comprehensible by all.  Likewise, when we judge others and dismiss their opinions and actions, we are the fools.  Their experience is very real for them and we may miss some valuable information if we don’t make the effort to bridge the gap between our different programming and conditioning/socializing.

What are some examples of this phenomenon that you have experienced? Have you ever changed your mind?  Have you ever strongly disagreed with someone (your parents, perhaps) and marveled at your alignment with them years later?  If you have ever once changed your mind, you  know that believing you are right about anything is not sound.

Another example is religious disdain or worse yet, intolerance.  The fact that a religion works for one group of people doesn’t indicate that no other religion is has value; yet, we see countless examples of judgments without thorough comprehension.

When we are ‘unteachable,’ closed-minded or attached to the way things have always been, we subject ourselves to varying degrees of limitation, irrelevance and isolation as if we refuse to upgrade various hardware or software for a computer.  This is true for the most intelligent of as well as the least!  I saw a conversation on Larry King between Stephen Hawkin and Deepak Chopra and realized that for all of his genius, Stephen Hawking was actually dismissing Deepak Chopra’s claims because they had not been his experience.  Additionally, he had never even tried to gain that experience!

We must be open to the experiences of others, challenge our comfort zone, and  embrace change to evolve.  I’m not sure where I first heard this expression, but I sure do love it:

“When I am alone in my mind, I am in enemy territory.”

−Unknown

NASH FLASH

 REACT

An impulsive action, which results in reinacting the scenario again

RESPOND

An intentional action involving pause to respire & ponder,
which results in change and personal growth –and better outcomes!

THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

NASH FLASH

MIND YOUR MIND!

If you need evidence that your thoughts, alone, can and do impact the world around you, just stare at the back of someone’s neck with the intention that they they are going to get that creepy, stalked sensation. When they grab their neck or turn around you’ll get your confirmation.

 The world around you is picking up on the thoughts you intensify – 

whether either one knows it or not!

Lesson from Job(s)

It is our great fortune to have witnessed the personification of so many Truths in the life and achievements or Steve Jobs.  His iconic legacy will be available for all to draw upon when illustrating Natural Law, the governing principles of Creation.  His larger-than-life demonstration of The Power of Pure Potential (aka the Power within), The Power of Intention (focus), The Power of Self-Referral (not accepting conventional wisdom), The Power of  Visualization (imagination), The Powers of Simplicity and  Boldness (‘just do it’), The Power of Detachment (from fear, from the outcome, from the known) brought us closer to understanding that while human, we are also super-human.  If we allow ourselves to seize these Powers, move out of the illusion of safety of our comfort zone and venture forth into the realization of our seemingly miraculous potential, we can, like Steve Jobs, achieve anything we can conceive and believe.
Jobs, sadly, also demonstrated the results of violating these Laws.  Stories of his impertenance are sprinkled throughout accounts of his creative prowess.  In addition to his micro-managing (controlling? autocratic?) leadership style, he was known to belittle people, seek revenge, and harbor grudges.  Whether he was ignorant, defiant or disdainful of such fundamental Laws as The Power of Love, The Power of Attraction, The Power of Compassion, and The Power of Forgiveness, Steve Jobs has left us a few poignant examples of  what happens when we believe we are the Power or that immutable Natural Laws don’t pertain to us.  It is impossible to fool Mother Nature.  We will always reap what we sow.  Pumpkin seeds will never bring forth cherries.  Imagine if he was able to weave the Power of Potential & The Power of Intention with The Powers of Love & Compassion and the Powers of Attraction & Purpose.  He may have inspired the realize-ation of boundless Potential within those he employed.  Empowering others motivated by an absolute trust in the Power of Love without any attachment to the outcome (e.g. not fearing that Knowledge or information is dangerous or belief that your investment in another  may not pay returns) must buoy the leader/teacher exponentially.  It is Law.
Additionally, had he chosen to empower and inspire rather than intimidate, the inescapable Law of Attraction is likely to have drawn far less toxicity to his life experience and perhaps the potential for disease encoded in his DNA could have remained un-real-ized, dormant.  Nature does not compartmentalize; neither do we.  It is impossible!  We cannot have one kind of thought and a different kind of body.  Your body will reflect, measurably, whether you are stressed, angry, grateful or loving, etc.  Make sure that that you employ the Power of Love in all of your intentions, interactions and creations.  The Law of Attraction says we receive back the energy we emit multiplied on all levels – physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.  Do you want back what you are giving out?  How would you like it on steroids?

NASH FLASH

The unknown is our playground. 

The known is our graveyard.

THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

NASH FLASH

PERCEPTION

It’s not about you.

It is also all about you!

What others think of you, say about you or how they treat you, has nothing to do with you.

What we think, say and do is who we are. 

When we are in denial, we project it onto others.

How you perceive and react to others is a reflection of you. 

For example, reacting in anger to an affront is unconscious agreement with it, 

while reacting with compassion is awareness of oneself on a loftier plane .

 

THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

NASH FLASH

SELF-SABOTAGE

is the unintended result of two misguided motives:
resentment and people-pleasing

THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

APRIL MEDITATION SEMINAR BEGINS SUNDAY 4.3.2011

meditation

Stress is the root of all dysfunction in our lives, physically, emotionally or socially. Proper meditation is one of the most powerful antidotes to stress, along with a sense of purpose and meaningful relationships (with ourselves as well as others). With Laura’s guidance, you will learn to effortlessly meditate your way to:
• gain mastery over your inner dialogue
• acquire peace of mind
• sharpen your focus and mental clarity
• improve relationships on all levels (intimate, familial, social and business)
• maintain balance and calm through adversity
• choose your circumstances instead of reacting to them
• experience a profound sense of satisfaction and fullment day to day
• live a life of meaning and purpose

For more information or to register, click the link below:

 

Click here for details.

 

 

 

NASH FLASH

DEFENSELESSNESS

Not having to win… IS winning!

THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

No Fool for Love

The Power of Love

Ironically, following the path of Love is the only route to true, sustainable power.  Seeking power through control and/or domination over people, places and things usually works…temporarily. This behavior can, and usually does, provide instant gratification and a [false] sense of security. The thrill of “success” releases endorphins and the association between domination and pleasure gets wired in our nervous system! The problem with this type of power is that it in not sustainable.  In addition, exacting power by deflating and depleting others comes with a very steep price.  Requiring constant vigilance, it is exhausting and inefficient. Neither the jailer nor the prisoner is free. Furthermore, what seems on the surface like a win, is in fact, another step closer to utter failure. The animus released every time someone loses in order that another prospers builds like an untreated disease. The power-grabber ultimately gets taken down one way or another, mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually, financially, etc.   Addicted to instant gratification and demonstrable, measurable cause and effect, the power addict usually slips into a comfortable denial, utterly incapable of recognizing direct responsibility for their dis-ease.   The person who is motivated by empowering and inspiring others has true Power. Individuals with this expansive perspective stand out in sharp contrast to the constriction felt around takers.  These individuals have magnetism – the power of attraction.  They listen to their inner guide (aka conscience)- which will ALWAYS make the loving, empowering choice.  The resulting goodwill from others as well as their own self-respect multiplies.  The subtle impact of their generosity pays dividends all the days of their lives.  It is the fool that doesn’t engage the power o Love in all human interaction.

GIVING & RECEIVING

Living Self-Care Blog GUEST POST: Real Mom Laura Nash

Laura’s Guest-Post on LIVING SELF-CARE

You Can’t Give Away What You Don’t Possess

Regarding self-sacrifice as a badge of honor comes from our very best intentions. We’ve been told that when we put others’ needs first, we’ll feel so good about ourselves that our needs will diminish. While this is often true about our desires, it is dangerously incorrect about our needs.

Our primary need is for love. Conditioning taught us to look for others to meet this: parents, siblings, friends, lovers and even our children. This dynamic would often require our significant others to suppress their needs in favor of ours. This can’t be love. Furthermore, there is nobody who can love you
the way you need to be loved — with one exception: YOU!

Love is best demonstrated with time and attention. We must give ourselves all the time and attention we need, so that our soul is overflowing with love. We can’t contain it.  We must give it away!  Free from unmet needs, your loved ones will sense the pure joy you derive from the relationship. They’ll neither feel defensive about disappointing you, nor will they act out in order to get your attention.

Only you know what you need. Only you can provide it. Take the time to check-in with yourself.  Discern your wants from your needs.  Extend love to yourself through self-care and your soul will soar.

Today’s author Laura Nash is a consultant and Chopra-certified meditation instructor who teaches individuals and companies “peace of mind” skills.  Visit her an http://www.lauranash.com.

NASH FLASH

INTENTION

The Intelligence responsible for all experience is literal and exact. It does not discern a loftier intention from sarcasm or self-deprecating humor.

Your words become self-fulfilling prophecy.

THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

NASH FLASH

The burden of the discipline

remains constant or lessens with consistency;

the burden of avoiding it increases 

exponentially over time.

“The fastest, surest way to self-love is self-discipline.”

– Alphie

THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

NASH FLASH

Discipline is freedom.

Discipline frees us from the bonds of slavery to a merciless master:

seeking pleasure and avoiding pain.

When we are undisciplined and “blow-off” our homework, our diet, our exercise or (fill in the blank) in favor of some instant gratification – we set ourselves further back from realizing the true joy – the goal.  The more we avoid the initial “pain” of the associated discipline, the greater the burden we carry around daily.


THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

Resolution? Oxymoron

Almost everyone has something they would like to change about themselves.  The first of the year seems like a neat and tidy time to correct course – begin anew working at having our behavior reflect the kind of person we know we are in our hearts.  

Did you ever stop to think about how truly crazy it is that we could ever be unable to  get ourselves to do or stop doing something?  We’re in a dysfunctional relationship with ourselves!  Life can be pretty disquieting when we can’t even get ourselves to meet our own needs and desires – forget about adding anyone else into the picture!

This discomfort or dis-ease sends us to the drawing board intensifying our efforts to control our own behavior.  It is exhausting, if not demoralizing.  We set goals, list intentions, repeat affirmations and make resolutions.  It feels like we are strapping on a girdle for a very good reason…we are!  A girdle is  uncomfortable and only masks the problem. This is also the case  with resolutions.

When we make a resolution we are setting out to re-solve our problem.  This is an oxymoron.  How does one re-solve anything?  The solution is the solution.  That’s it…problem solved.  There is no need to go back a revisit a problem that has been solved.  In fact, that is only asking for trouble.

If you find yourself making a resolution, be aware that you are trying to fix the result and not the cause.  If you have a leaky basement (metaphor – cracks in your foundation), you would be a fool to continually shop-vac after every storm without finding the cause of the trouble.  So, too, with self-defeating behaviors like smoking, over-eating, shopping, drinking, gossiping, etc.

Take all of the work out of changing by simply becoming aware.  Pay attention to all of your thoughts and feelings surrounding a “relapse.”  Be thorough about this and you will discover that the  emotion, which sponsored the behavior, was not so unbearable to experience.  Paradoxically, when you admit the feeling – it is released and so is the behavior that you used to mask it. In essence, you have accepted this about yourself, which takes all the power out of it and your need for escape is gone as well.

Let it all in to release it.  That which you resist, will persist.
I know it works.  I have done this with some behaviors I never thought I could stop.

NASH FLASH

That which we appreciate, appreciates

Appreciation is the alchemy that literally transforms the substance of matter. What you value will actually become more valuable.

The reverse is also true!

  • TREAT your kids as if you appreciate everything about them and they will give you more and more to appreciate.
  • TREAT your wife like she is supremely beautiful inside and out and you will be rewarded by her radiance!
  • TREAT your husband like he is the most competent, generous, loving partner on the planet and you will be the envy of all.
  • TREAT yourself like you are not worthy, by tolerating anything less than this from others or from yourself, and you will experience none of the above.

THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

NASH FLASH

Nothing changes if  nothing changes.

Albeit, the only constant is change (Heraclitus), an object in motion tends to stay in motion and an object at rest tends to stay at rest (Newton’s 1st Law).
Conclusion: unless one makes a conscious choice to alter their trajectory through change in thought, word and deed, their life will be a series of reenactments of the same story with different characters and scenery.

THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

NASH FLASH

Judge not.

judgement v. assessment
Assessment is vital to life.  We do it, as we must for our well-being, all day long.  Judgement is toxic to life.  Skewed by self-seeking motives, it is assessment’s impostor.
Simple acid test for discerning a judgement from an assessment:
Are you feeling emotionally charged?

NASH FLASH

There is no one to blame

If you are enduring problems with your boss, your staff, lover, family or friends YOU need to change! When the N Pole and S Pole of two magnets cleave to each other, they are each 100% responsible for the situation.

THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

NASH FLASH

Your relationships will only be as rewarding/profitable as your investment into them.

Carlos Slim, wealthiest man on the planet, built his empire investing in HUMAN capital and teaching business owners to do the same…at NO cost to his biggest account: his family!

THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed