SHORT TERM GAIN = LONG TERM PAIN
Controlling people use force, manipulation or intimidation to ‘succeed.’
Leaders use personal Power, magnetism or inspiration to succeed.
Can you guess which one gets what they are seeking?
“Knowledge has infinite organizing power.”
I will be posting some important points to ponder over the coming days as you expect my next video blog, when I will introduce the first tool/discipline required to gain control over your thoughts, words and deeds:
The first point: THOUGHTS ARE NOT FACTS.
The brain is a non-conscious organ that functions like a computer processing ONLY what it can with the programs installed on it. If the brain has not been given the software to process information (through formal education and/or socializing), it computes the material as nonsense, much like a pc would read a Word document without the Microsoft Word™ program installed. The document is not nonsense simply because our pc doesn’t have the programming to understand it. It is, however, nonsense to dismiss the document as nonsense! There are many ways to compensate for different operating systems and programs so that the facts on the page, which remain absolute regardless of processor, are comprehensible by all. Likewise, when we judge others and dismiss their opinions and actions, we are the fools. Their experience is very real for them and we may miss some valuable information if we don’t make the effort to bridge the gap between our different programming and conditioning/socializing.
What are some examples of this phenomenon that you have experienced? Have you ever changed your mind? Have you ever strongly disagreed with someone (your parents, perhaps) and marveled at your alignment with them years later? If you have ever once changed your mind, you know that believing you are right about anything is not sound.
Another example is religious disdain or worse yet, intolerance. The fact that a religion works for one group of people doesn’t indicate that no other religion is has value; yet, we see countless examples of judgments without thorough comprehension.
When we are ‘unteachable,’ closed-minded or attached to the way things have always been, we subject ourselves to varying degrees of limitation, irrelevance and isolation as if we refuse to upgrade various hardware or software for a computer. This is true for the most intelligent of as well as the least! I saw a conversation on Larry King between Stephen Hawkin and Deepak Chopra and realized that for all of his genius, Stephen Hawking was actually dismissing Deepak Chopra’s claims because they had not been his experience. Additionally, he had never even tried to gain that experience!
We must be open to the experiences of others, challenge our comfort zone, and embrace change to evolve. I’m not sure where I first heard this expression, but I sure do love it:
“When I am alone in my mind, I am in enemy territory.”