Today I introduce the third essential tool to help you overcome self-defeating behavior.
With consistent practice of these simple habits, your thoughts, words and deeds can and will match what is in your heart!
You’ve learned to observe without judgement, revisit your regrettable decisions reflecting on what lead to the choices you made, and what you might have done differently and now it is time to excavate the source of your counter-productive choices and figure out why your hot buttons are so hot. Dig deep. Head into your discomfort. Come to terms with your vulnerability, and you will find yourself responding to life’s problems with confidence and poise.
If you seek to align your thoughts and actions, excavation is a crucial, necessary step.
Today I introduce the second essential tool to help you
• direct your thoughts
• bridle your mouth
• approve of your own behavior
Your thoughts, words and deeds can and will match what is in your heart consistently!
We’ve learned to observe without judgement, and now it is time to revisit our decisions. Ask yourself what lead to the choices you made, and what you might have done differently. Reflection is the second step to aligning your thoughts and actions.
Today I discuss a crucial tool to help you align your mind, body and spirit.
Simply take note of your surroundings, your environment, your thoughts, reactions, and feelings. No judging, no reporting, no resolving. Awareness is the first step to aligning your thoughts and actions.
The second point: THE BRAIN CANNOT DISCERN FACT FROM FANTASY.
This is why we have emotional and physical reactions to stories being played out on a movie screen – and to situations throughout our day that actually have nothing to do with us. Exhaustive scientific research has failed to locate the consciousness (aka awareness, presence, thinker, observer, conscience, etc.) that appears from time to time throughout the movie – and throughout our day – to remind the brain of the truth.
FEAR = Fantasized Evil Appearing Real
Most people have not been trained to cultivate and keep up a disciplined connection with this presence or “present moment awareness.” As a result they have very little power to control the behavior of their conditioned mind. Events from the past leave an imprint on the brain. Later when seemingly similar circumstances present themselves, the brain will issue warning signals. If we are not paying attention (present/aware) we will believe the brain’s interpretation of imminent danger and react accordingly. We are re-acting the plot from a situation that may have happened years ago and have no relevance to the current situation whatsoever! If we are in the moment, we open ourselves to the possibility of a different interpretation. We can choose to respond differently and experience an entirely different outcome. When we respond we pause to respire and ponder.
Present moment awareness frees me from being held hostage by my past.
MIND YOUR MIND!
The world around you is picking up on the thoughts you intensify –
Sunday, October 30, 2011
The Center for Relaxation & Healing Chatham,NJ
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Over-thinking? Angry? Pressured?
- Learn why meditation is so important for well-being and peace of mind.
- Decide whether level one or leveltwo is the most appropriate choice for you:
- Simply and effectively change the way you feel employing various medataive relaxation techniques.
- Discover the seemingly miraculous, life-changing benefits of a formal meditation practice.
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Laura’s Guest-Post on LIVING SELF-CARE
Regarding self-sacrifice as a badge of honor comes from our very best intentions. We’ve been told that when we put others’ needs first, we’ll feel so good about ourselves that our needs will diminish. While this is often true about our desires, it is dangerously incorrect about our needs.
Our primary need is for love. Conditioning taught us to look for others to meet this: parents, siblings, friends, lovers and even our children. This dynamic would often require our significant others to suppress their needs in favor of ours. This can’t be love. Furthermore, there is nobody who can love you
the way you need to be loved — with one exception: YOU!
Love is best demonstrated with time and attention. We must give ourselves all the time and attention we need, so that our soul is overflowing with love. We can’t contain it. We must give it away! Free from unmet needs, your loved ones will sense the pure joy you derive from the relationship. They’ll neither feel defensive about disappointing you, nor will they act out in order to get your attention.
Only you know what you need. Only you can provide it. Take the time to check-in with yourself. Discern your wants from your needs. Extend love to yourself through self-care and your soul will soar.
Today’s author Laura Nash is a consultant and Chopra-certified meditation instructor who teaches individuals and companies “peace of mind” skills. Visit her an http://www.lauranash.com.
We are not separate from the Source of everything that was, is, and will be. Rather, we are an extension of that Source. We, as human beings, have evolved to the point of being aware of the Source that gives rise to our being as well as possessing the ability to use that Source to manifest our own dreams.
Resistance to this personal power is caused by our own ego buying into a fear-based belief produced by our well-meaning–but misguided–rational mind, which has forgotten the fact the Source lies within us and not from an external, fabricated concept such as money.
We can experience more of the magic of this Source by meditating frequently. When we meditate, we bypass the rational mind and tap into the energy of this Source. When we start to expand our consciousness we allow this energy to flow more freely into our being, and we start to experience more joy and goodness in our lives—which is our natural state! We forget this state as we experience the trials and tribulations of growing into adulthood.
Imagine a newborn baby. She is like a brilliant diamond: clear, pure and beautiful, with many facets. She coos, laughs, she is energetic and joyous, in a constant state of wonderment at her surroundings. She has no pre-conceived conception of what life will be like in her new home.
Then one day she is taken to her grandparents’ home and is scolded for picking up Grandma’s china bowl and marking up the tables with her fudge-covered fingers. When they go to dinner she is told to use her “restaurant voice” so she won’t disturb the others and is reprimanded for laughing too loud.
Her blissful, expanded state begins to constrict as social conditioning begins, and her ego creeps in to protect her from the words and actions of others. Yet underneath the conditioning and protective coverings she will build over the years is still her original blissful, laughing, energetic and joyous self—her true self, that extension of Source energy encapsulated in a physical body, having a material experience.
To paraphrase Abraham-Hicks, “Source Energy” is always available to us, and with it comes joy, goodness, love, abundance, laughter, and the sense of well-being we all instinctively crave and know we possess. We can feel whether or not we are allowing our full connection to that energy. Simply put, the better we feel, the more we are allowing this connection to occur. The worse we feel, the less we are allowing it. Our body uses discomfort and disease to force us to slow down and pay attention to our “mis-creation” (unconsciously driven self-defeating activity) or our disconnection from the Source.
Every thought we have vibrates, radiating a signal into the universe and attracting a similar vibration back. When you tune your radio to 95.5 FM, you don’t expect to hear music from 101.1 FM. Radio frequencies must match in order to be picked up and interpreted clearly.
The same is true for human beings. Imagine we are a human radio antenna, emitting a certain frequency. You attract and receive the same frequency you emit into the universe. If you send a negative signal or feeling, you attract more negativity—misery loves company. Conversely, when you emit a joyous and happy signal, you will attract more joy and happiness in your life. This is the Law of Attraction, a widely accepted principle which highlights the energetic exchange of the universe. It states: “That which is like unto itself is drawn.”
The Source cannot judge right and wrong, it only responds to vibration. Whatever you concentrate on in life, you send out a vibration associated with it. In other words, what you pay attention to is exactly what you’re creating in your own life—for better or for worse. The response from the Source will equal the vibration.
By paying attention to the signals of your feelings, you can understand—with greater precision—the concept that everything you are now experiencing or have ever lived in the past is because you attracted it to yourself. If we go back to the issue of our abusive parents, or the illness, we can take it on face value that we somehow attracted it this to our lives and, if we want to be free, we need to begin to intentionally attract something more positive. We have to boldly break through the pain of our past or present circumstances by focusing on what we do want to experience, here and now.
Meditating on a consistent, daily basis shouldn’t be viewed as “taking time away” from your schedule. Rather, it’s an opportunity to honor your life by devoting the time needed to center yourself every day so you can face the obstacles around you with a vivacious, courageous spirit. It’s just as important in your life as eating and sleeping. Let’s look at what meditation can accomplish for you, and how you can start meditation today.
Benefits of Meditating on a Consistent Basis
Experience peace of mind (reduce mental chatter)
Increase your ability to focus and concentrate
Improve efficiency while reducing anxiety
Measurably decrease stress levels
Lower your blood pressure naturally
Reverse the aging process
Increase your energy level
Enhance your intuition
Basic Instructions for Meditating
- Make a decision to schedule your meditation on a regular basis, allowing 20-30 minutes in the morning and afternoon or early evening.
- Try to sit in the same place as often as possible, even if the morning and afternoon locations are different.
- Eliminate as many disturbances as possible: shut off phones, give your children an activity to do, put pets in a place they will not disturb you, and let people know when you expect to be finished.
- Set a timer and muffle it if the alarm is a jarring noise. Sit up straight with your eyes closed, your feet on the floor and your hands unfolded resting palms down on your lap. If you’re more comfortable on the floor, sit cross-legged on a comfortable pillow or zabuton.
- Gently and calmly focus your attention on your breath.
- Every time your attention drifts away from your breath to a thought, feeling, sensation in the body, disturbance in your environment or a vision, gently return to focusing on your breath.
- At some point, you will have no thoughts and the awareness of your own breathing will fade. This is magical! You are wide awake, totally alert, conscious and aware, but not of anything in particular. You have experienced what it is like to simply BE. Remember, we are human beings, not human doings!
What to Expect During Your Practice
You might become restless and bored; this is all the more reason to sit and concentrate.
You might fall asleep, in which case you should search for the reason behind this reaction.
You will arrive at the time where you have no thoughts or awareness of breath, although you won’t realize you are in this place until after you have your first conscious thought.
Once you’ve begun practicing meditation consistently, you’ll be amazed at how your day-to-day life runs more smoothly than before. Taking the time to honor the life and energy inside you will have a profound impact on both your own existence and your surroundings.