Today I introduce the third essential tool to help you overcome self-defeating behavior.
With consistent practice of these simple habits, your thoughts, words and deeds can and will match what is in your heart!
You’ve learned to observe without judgement, revisit your regrettable decisions reflecting on what lead to the choices you made, and what you might have done differently and now it is time to excavate the source of your counter-productive choices and figure out why your hot buttons are so hot. Dig deep. Head into your discomfort. Come to terms with your vulnerability, and you will find yourself responding to life’s problems with confidence and poise.
If you seek to align your thoughts and actions, excavation is a crucial, necessary step.
Today I introduce the second essential tool to help you
• direct your thoughts
• bridle your mouth
• approve of your own behavior
Your thoughts, words and deeds can and will match what is in your heart consistently!
We’ve learned to observe without judgement, and now it is time to revisit our decisions. Ask yourself what lead to the choices you made, and what you might have done differently. Reflection is the second step to aligning your thoughts and actions.
Today I discuss a crucial tool to help you align your mind, body and spirit.
Simply take note of your surroundings, your environment, your thoughts, reactions, and feelings. No judging, no reporting, no resolving. Awareness is the first step to aligning your thoughts and actions.
The second point: THE BRAIN CANNOT DISCERN FACT FROM FANTASY.
This is why we have emotional and physical reactions to stories being played out on a movie screen – and to situations throughout our day that actually have nothing to do with us. Exhaustive scientific research has failed to locate the consciousness (aka awareness, presence, thinker, observer, conscience, etc.) that appears from time to time throughout the movie – and throughout our day – to remind the brain of the truth.
FEAR = Fantasized Evil Appearing Real
Most people have not been trained to cultivate and keep up a disciplined connection with this presence or “present moment awareness.” As a result they have very little power to control the behavior of their conditioned mind. Events from the past leave an imprint on the brain. Later when seemingly similar circumstances present themselves, the brain will issue warning signals. If we are not paying attention (present/aware) we will believe the brain’s interpretation of imminent danger and react accordingly. We are re-acting the plot from a situation that may have happened years ago and have no relevance to the current situation whatsoever! If we are in the moment, we open ourselves to the possibility of a different interpretation. We can choose to respond differently and experience an entirely different outcome. When we respond we pause to respire and ponder.
Present moment awareness frees me from being held hostage by my past.
MIND YOUR MIND!
The world around you is picking up on the thoughts you intensify –
Sunday, October 30, 2011
The Center for Relaxation & Healing Chatham,NJ
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Laura’s Guest-Post on LIVING SELF-CARE
Regarding self-sacrifice as a badge of honor comes from our very best intentions. We’ve been told that when we put others’ needs first, we’ll feel so good about ourselves that our needs will diminish. While this is often true about our desires, it is dangerously incorrect about our needs.
Our primary need is for love. Conditioning taught us to look for others to meet this: parents, siblings, friends, lovers and even our children. This dynamic would often require our significant others to suppress their needs in favor of ours. This can’t be love. Furthermore, there is nobody who can love you
the way you need to be loved — with one exception: YOU!
Love is best demonstrated with time and attention. We must give ourselves all the time and attention we need, so that our soul is overflowing with love. We can’t contain it. We must give it away! Free from unmet needs, your loved ones will sense the pure joy you derive from the relationship. They’ll neither feel defensive about disappointing you, nor will they act out in order to get your attention.
Only you know what you need. Only you can provide it. Take the time to check-in with yourself. Discern your wants from your needs. Extend love to yourself through self-care and your soul will soar.
Today’s author Laura Nash is a consultant and Chopra-certified meditation instructor who teaches individuals and companies “peace of mind” skills. Visit her an http://www.lauranash.com.