JUST RELEASED – THE ULTIMATE EXPERT Podcast #3

I have just uploaded my PODCAST for week 4!

You can find it here and you can also get it on iTunes. It’s called the ULTIMATE EXPERT PODCAST, and the idea is simple:

I believe that under all of your formal education and social conditioning, you have an inner expert that knows what’s best for you.

YOU are the ultimate expert, and this is your podcast.

It’s free, it’s fun, and this week’s episode is available right now.

Now Playing: Episode 3: Angela Scott, Good Voices and Bad Voices – Episode 3 – I discuss overcoming fear with my guest and friend Angela Scott. We discuss her struggle to follow her true passion, voice acting, and how you can use your intellect to help you achieve your heart’s desire (and not lead you away from it).

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I hope you enjoy!

THE ULTIMATE EXPERT podcast

WEEK 4

Today I introduce the third essential tool to help you overcome self-defeating behavior.

 With consistent  practice of these simple habits, your thoughts, words and deeds can and will match what is in your heart!

  1. OBSERVATION
  2. REFLECTION
  3. EXCAVATION

    You’ve learned to observe without judgement,  revisit your regrettable decisions reflecting on what lead to the choices you made, and what you might have done differently and now it is time to excavate the source of your counter-productive choices and figure out why your hot buttons are so hot.  Dig deep.  Head into your discomfort. Come to terms with your vulnerability, and you will find yourself responding to life’s problems with confidence and poise.

     If you seek to align your thoughts and actions, excavation is a crucial, necessary step.

    Week 4 EXCAVATION Click on the image to watch the video.


JUST RELEASED – THE ULTIMATE EXPERT Podcast #2

In addition to my blog posts and videos, I upload a PODCAST weekly.

You can find it here and you can also get it on iTunes. It’s called the ULTIMATE EXPERT PODCAST, and the idea is simple:

I believe that under all of your formal education and social conditioning, you have an inner expert that knows what’s best for you.

YOU are the ultimate expert, and this is your podcast.

It’s free, it’s fun, and this week’s episode is available right now.

Now playing – Episode 2: Katie Laud, Defining the Self –  I discuss defining the self with my guest and friend Katie Laud. We delve into the toll it takes on our identity to never say what we truly feel, the fear of confronting that true self, and the importance of observing and reflecting on letting that true self out.

I hope you enjoy!

THE ULTIMATE EXPERT podcast

WEEK 3

Today I introduce the second essential tool to help you

• direct your thoughts 

• bridle your mouth 

• approve of your own behavior 

 Your thoughts, words and deeds can and will match what is in your heart consistently!

REFLECTION

We’ve learned to observe without judgement, and now it is time to revisit our decisions.  Ask yourself what lead to the choices you made, and what you might have done differently. Reflection is the second step to aligning your thoughts and actions.

Week 3 REFLECTION Click on the image to watch the video.

Today I discuss a crucial tool to help you align your mind, body and spirit.

OBSERVATION

Simply take note of your surroundings, your environment, your thoughts, reactions, and feelings. No judging, no reporting, no resolving. Awareness is the first step to aligning your thoughts and actions.

OBSERVATION
click on the photo to watch the video

My NEW PODCAST!

Starting today, there will be a new way to tune in.

In addition to my blog posts and videos, I’ll be uploading a PODCAST every Tuesday morning.

It’s called the ULTIMATE EXPERT PODCAST, and the idea is simple:

I believe that under all of your formal education and social conditioning, you have an inner expert that knows what’s best for you.

YOU are the ultimate expert, and this is your podcast.

It’s free, it’s fun, and the first episode is available right now.

Episode 1 – Welcome!     I hope you enjoy!

THE ULTIMATE EXPERT podcast

Week 1: TOOLS – What You Need To Know

The second point: THE BRAIN CANNOT DISCERN FACT FROM FANTASY.

This is why we have emotional and physical reactions to stories being played out on a movie screen – and to situations throughout our day that actually have nothing to do with us. Exhaustive scientific research has failed to locate the consciousness (aka awareness, presence, thinker, observer, conscience, etc.) that appears from time to time throughout the movie – and throughout our day – to remind the brain of the truth.

FEAR = Fantasized Evil Appearing Real

Most people have not been trained to cultivate and keep up a disciplined connection with this presence or “present moment awareness.” As a result they have very little power to control the behavior of their conditioned mind.  Events from the past leave an imprint on the brain.  Later when seemingly similar circumstances present themselves, the brain will issue warning signals.  If we are not paying attention (present/aware) we will believe the brain’s interpretation of  imminent danger and react accordingly.  We are re-acting the plot from a situation that may have happened years ago and have no relevance to the current situation whatsoever!  If we are in the moment, we open ourselves to the possibility of a different interpretation.  We can choose to respond differently and experience an entirely different outcome.  When we respond we pause to respire and ponder.

Present moment awareness frees me from being held hostage by my past.

Week 1: TOOLS – What You Need to Know

“Knowledge has infinite organizing power.”

−Deepak Chopra

I will be posting some important points to ponder over the coming days as you expect my next video blog, when I will introduce the first tool/discipline required to gain control over your thoughts, words and deeds:

The first point: THOUGHTS ARE NOT FACTS.

The brain is a non-conscious organ that functions like a computer processing ONLY what it can with the programs  installed on it.  If the brain has not been given the software to process information (through formal education and/or socializing), it computes the material as nonsense, much like a pc would read a Word document without the Microsoft Word™ program installed. The document is not nonsense simply because our pc doesn’t have the programming to understand it.  It is, however, nonsense to dismiss the document as nonsense!  There are many ways to compensate for different operating systems and programs so that the facts on the page, which remain absolute regardless of processor, are comprehensible by all.  Likewise, when we judge others and dismiss their opinions and actions, we are the fools.  Their experience is very real for them and we may miss some valuable information if we don’t make the effort to bridge the gap between our different programming and conditioning/socializing.

What are some examples of this phenomenon that you have experienced? Have you ever changed your mind?  Have you ever strongly disagreed with someone (your parents, perhaps) and marveled at your alignment with them years later?  If you have ever once changed your mind, you  know that believing you are right about anything is not sound.

Another example is religious disdain or worse yet, intolerance.  The fact that a religion works for one group of people doesn’t indicate that no other religion is has value; yet, we see countless examples of judgments without thorough comprehension.

When we are ‘unteachable,’ closed-minded or attached to the way things have always been, we subject ourselves to varying degrees of limitation, irrelevance and isolation as if we refuse to upgrade various hardware or software for a computer.  This is true for the most intelligent of as well as the least!  I saw a conversation on Larry King between Stephen Hawkin and Deepak Chopra and realized that for all of his genius, Stephen Hawking was actually dismissing Deepak Chopra’s claims because they had not been his experience.  Additionally, he had never even tried to gain that experience!

We must be open to the experiences of others, challenge our comfort zone, and  embrace change to evolve.  I’m not sure where I first heard this expression, but I sure do love it:

“When I am alone in my mind, I am in enemy territory.”

−Unknown

YOUR PATH TO PEACE OF MIND

INTRODUCTION

Have you ever said something or done something that you knew you would regret even as you were saying or doing it?  Have you ever asked yourself how this is possible when YOU are the one saying or doing it?  How can we hope to manage the circumstances of our lives when we are not entirely able to manage our own thoughts and behaviors?

YOUR PATH TO PEACE OF MIND

Week 1: WELCOME!

I have cut out and posted on my fridge a full-page Nike print adds that simply says, “LEAP AND THE NET WILL APPEAR.”  These words are superimposed over a photograph of a woman jumping over what she seems to believe is a body of water. From the reader’s angle, it is clear that she is really just clearing a puddle!

So, here I go…

I have brought you my first in a series of video blogs designed to help you gain peace of mind regardless of your circumstances. It is located near the top of the right-hand sidebar on this page.  I hope you’ll watch, subscribe, tune into my blog for associated tools and exercises as well as listen and subscribe to my weekly podcast.

I have also included a link to a video I posted on Facebook at the beginning of the year to hold myself accountable to myself. Today I am following through.  To see my very first video blog post, click on this thumbnail:

If you would like to ask me questions in person on my podcast (anonymously or not) or if you would like me address a certain topic or question, please contact me via email at laura@lauranash.com and I will get back to you.

Warmest regards,

Laura

NASH FLASH

 REACT

An impulsive action, which results in reinacting the scenario again

RESPOND

An intentional action involving pause to respire & ponder,
which results in change and personal growth –and better outcomes!

THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

NASH FLASH

MIND YOUR MIND!

If you need evidence that your thoughts, alone, can and do impact the world around you, just stare at the back of someone’s neck with the intention that they they are going to get that creepy, stalked sensation. When they grab their neck or turn around you’ll get your confirmation.

 The world around you is picking up on the thoughts you intensify – 

whether either one knows it or not!

Lesson from Job(s)

It is our great fortune to have witnessed the personification of so many Truths in the life and achievements or Steve Jobs.  His iconic legacy will be available for all to draw upon when illustrating Natural Law, the governing principles of Creation.  His larger-than-life demonstration of The Power of Pure Potential (aka the Power within), The Power of Intention (focus), The Power of Self-Referral (not accepting conventional wisdom), The Power of  Visualization (imagination), The Powers of Simplicity and  Boldness (‘just do it’), The Power of Detachment (from fear, from the outcome, from the known) brought us closer to understanding that while human, we are also super-human.  If we allow ourselves to seize these Powers, move out of the illusion of safety of our comfort zone and venture forth into the realization of our seemingly miraculous potential, we can, like Steve Jobs, achieve anything we can conceive and believe.
Jobs, sadly, also demonstrated the results of violating these Laws.  Stories of his impertenance are sprinkled throughout accounts of his creative prowess.  In addition to his micro-managing (controlling? autocratic?) leadership style, he was known to belittle people, seek revenge, and harbor grudges.  Whether he was ignorant, defiant or disdainful of such fundamental Laws as The Power of Love, The Power of Attraction, The Power of Compassion, and The Power of Forgiveness, Steve Jobs has left us a few poignant examples of  what happens when we believe we are the Power or that immutable Natural Laws don’t pertain to us.  It is impossible to fool Mother Nature.  We will always reap what we sow.  Pumpkin seeds will never bring forth cherries.  Imagine if he was able to weave the Power of Potential & The Power of Intention with The Powers of Love & Compassion and the Powers of Attraction & Purpose.  He may have inspired the realize-ation of boundless Potential within those he employed.  Empowering others motivated by an absolute trust in the Power of Love without any attachment to the outcome (e.g. not fearing that Knowledge or information is dangerous or belief that your investment in another  may not pay returns) must buoy the leader/teacher exponentially.  It is Law.
Additionally, had he chosen to empower and inspire rather than intimidate, the inescapable Law of Attraction is likely to have drawn far less toxicity to his life experience and perhaps the potential for disease encoded in his DNA could have remained un-real-ized, dormant.  Nature does not compartmentalize; neither do we.  It is impossible!  We cannot have one kind of thought and a different kind of body.  Your body will reflect, measurably, whether you are stressed, angry, grateful or loving, etc.  Make sure that that you employ the Power of Love in all of your intentions, interactions and creations.  The Law of Attraction says we receive back the energy we emit multiplied on all levels – physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.  Do you want back what you are giving out?  How would you like it on steroids?

Free Introduction to Meditation

Sunday, October 30, 2011  

The Center for Relaxation & Healing  Chatham,NJ

Alternatively, you may join us live via teleconference.

You choose!  Simply make your selection on the registration page. The details of the teleconference can be found when you register.  Please feel free to invite as many friends as you like and forward this announcement to anyone yoiu know that may benefit from this information.

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    1. Simply and effectively change the way you feel employing various medataive relaxation techniques.
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  • 30 minutes will be devoted to Q&A and/or guided meditation as time allows.

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NASH FLASH

Attraction Confusion

 like attracts like 

and opposites attract

The two are not mutually exclusive.  The subject and quality of our focus determines what we attract.  A loving person focusing on what they hate (illness, mean people, etc.) is likely to attract just that!  Onlookers will say, “How unfair!”  Actually, the law is non-discriminating applying to everyone.  

A simple shift of focus to what is desired with a grateful, expectant heart will produce  miracles!


THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

NASH FLASH

The unknown is our playground. 

The known is our graveyard.

THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

NASH FLASH

PERCEPTION

It’s not about you.

It is also all about you!

What others think of you, say about you or how they treat you, has nothing to do with you.

What we think, say and do is who we are. 

When we are in denial, we project it onto others.

How you perceive and react to others is a reflection of you. 

For example, reacting in anger to an affront is unconscious agreement with it, 

while reacting with compassion is awareness of oneself on a loftier plane .

 

THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

NASH FLASH

One doesn’t fall out of love.

Becoming apathetic, disenchanted, indifferent or disillusioned

in what was once a “loving” relationship

means that we never truly loved in the first place.

Best we learn how to love before we do more damage.

Love is not love

Which alters when it alteration finds.

—William Shakespeare Sonnet 116


THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

NASH FLASH

May the Force be with you.”

May YOU be with the Force!

THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

NASH FLASH

INDEPENDENCE

In-dependence
of each other,
our environment
and a higher power,
free from control.

THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

NASH FLASH

A mis-perception of independence as a human being

will cause hubris, ignorance of the fact that we are actually

in dependence of something greater than ourselves.

THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

NASH FLASH

LUCK

is a dismissive word describing a result of a force of Nature

that science hasn’t been able to fully explain or quantify.

~ Intention ~ 

The cumulative effect of optimism, gratitude, faith, focus, commitment,

and action (simple forward movement as opposed to force or strain),

can attract spontaneous results that the ego labels “chance,””co-incidence,”  “miraculous.”

THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

NASH FLASH

SHAME

prevents us from taking responsibility for grievances and conflicts in our lives,

dooming us to repeat the patterns that caused them.

THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

NASH FLASH

AMENDS

made begrudgingly, without sincerity, or for some ulterior motive (e.g. to ‘keep the peace’)

will mend nothing.

THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

NASH FLASH

SELF-SABOTAGE

is the unintended result of two misguided motives:
resentment and people-pleasing

THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

NASHFLASH

MINDFULNESS

becomes a top priority, when one fully understands that form follows thought,
regardless of the thinker’s intention.
We reap what we sew in thought, word and deed, the most potent of which, is thought!

THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

NASH FLASH

SACRIFICE AND LOVE

can’t be used in the same sentence.

Whatever we give to or share with our beloved makes us feel

enhanced ~ not at all diminished, depleted or drained.

THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

APRIL MEDITATION SEMINAR BEGINS SUNDAY 4.3.2011

meditation

Stress is the root of all dysfunction in our lives, physically, emotionally or socially. Proper meditation is one of the most powerful antidotes to stress, along with a sense of purpose and meaningful relationships (with ourselves as well as others). With Laura’s guidance, you will learn to effortlessly meditate your way to:
• gain mastery over your inner dialogue
• acquire peace of mind
• sharpen your focus and mental clarity
• improve relationships on all levels (intimate, familial, social and business)
• maintain balance and calm through adversity
• choose your circumstances instead of reacting to them
• experience a profound sense of satisfaction and fullment day to day
• live a life of meaning and purpose

For more information or to register, click the link below:

 

Click here for details.

 

 

 

NASH FLASH

DEFENSELESSNESS

Not having to win… IS winning!

THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

NASH FLASH

LOVE

is the force that catapults our awareness beyond the limitation of rational thought.

It connects us to the miraculous Power performing trillions of functions in our bodies every second simultaneously, co-incidentally, without communication between the parts.

“The only thing faster than the speed of light is Love.”

~ Alphie


THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

Nash Flash

FEAR OF CHANGE

is the result of identifying ourselves with the roles we play,

our relationships, where we live and how we do things.

It comes from defining ourselves by our possessions.

The greater the depth of our connection to ourSelves, the One having these experiences,
the less we fear losing them.

THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

No Fool for Love

The Power of Love

Ironically, following the path of Love is the only route to true, sustainable power.  Seeking power through control and/or domination over people, places and things usually works…temporarily. This behavior can, and usually does, provide instant gratification and a [false] sense of security. The thrill of “success” releases endorphins and the association between domination and pleasure gets wired in our nervous system! The problem with this type of power is that it in not sustainable.  In addition, exacting power by deflating and depleting others comes with a very steep price.  Requiring constant vigilance, it is exhausting and inefficient. Neither the jailer nor the prisoner is free. Furthermore, what seems on the surface like a win, is in fact, another step closer to utter failure. The animus released every time someone loses in order that another prospers builds like an untreated disease. The power-grabber ultimately gets taken down one way or another, mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually, financially, etc.   Addicted to instant gratification and demonstrable, measurable cause and effect, the power addict usually slips into a comfortable denial, utterly incapable of recognizing direct responsibility for their dis-ease.   The person who is motivated by empowering and inspiring others has true Power. Individuals with this expansive perspective stand out in sharp contrast to the constriction felt around takers.  These individuals have magnetism – the power of attraction.  They listen to their inner guide (aka conscience)- which will ALWAYS make the loving, empowering choice.  The resulting goodwill from others as well as their own self-respect multiplies.  The subtle impact of their generosity pays dividends all the days of their lives.  It is the fool that doesn’t engage the power o Love in all human interaction.

GIVING & RECEIVING

Living Self-Care Blog GUEST POST: Real Mom Laura Nash

Laura’s Guest-Post on LIVING SELF-CARE

You Can’t Give Away What You Don’t Possess

Regarding self-sacrifice as a badge of honor comes from our very best intentions. We’ve been told that when we put others’ needs first, we’ll feel so good about ourselves that our needs will diminish. While this is often true about our desires, it is dangerously incorrect about our needs.

Our primary need is for love. Conditioning taught us to look for others to meet this: parents, siblings, friends, lovers and even our children. This dynamic would often require our significant others to suppress their needs in favor of ours. This can’t be love. Furthermore, there is nobody who can love you
the way you need to be loved — with one exception: YOU!

Love is best demonstrated with time and attention. We must give ourselves all the time and attention we need, so that our soul is overflowing with love. We can’t contain it.  We must give it away!  Free from unmet needs, your loved ones will sense the pure joy you derive from the relationship. They’ll neither feel defensive about disappointing you, nor will they act out in order to get your attention.

Only you know what you need. Only you can provide it. Take the time to check-in with yourself.  Discern your wants from your needs.  Extend love to yourself through self-care and your soul will soar.

Today’s author Laura Nash is a consultant and Chopra-certified meditation instructor who teaches individuals and companies “peace of mind” skills.  Visit her an http://www.lauranash.com.

NASH FLASH

FAMILIAR TERRITORY

is a cruel lover.  Seduced by its deceptive appeal, we stifle our soul and pretend to be alive.

THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

Don’t Like Reality? Change It

What does reality mean to you? Although it sounds like the question has an obvious answer, if you ask five different people, you’ll get five very different, very unique answers. Our choices, preferences, upbringing and past experiences all play a part in coloring our perception of reality. In turn, those perceptions manifest the reality we perceive.

 

As an example, let’s look at an employee in conflict with his boss. He requested that his boss tend to a situation that directly impacted him, ASAP. When his boss didn’t respond immediately, he took it personally. He was very angry that his boss did not take the time to communicate with him clearly and resolve the problem in a timely manner.

 

He reacted to what he perceived as a snub, with emotion – anger. Ultimately, he got what he wanted from his boss. However, he was filled with remorse for his behavior. He knew that he had sown seeds that would cause him to reap a bitter harvest at some future date.

 

In truth, the boss was entrenched in a system of poor communication and the lack of timely response had absolutely nothing to do with the employee. The employee was valued. No one in the firm ever got a direct response. There was dysfunction in the system.

 

By taking the situation personally the employee viewed current events through the lens of his memories of having been marginalized in the past. Because he could not evaluate the situation independently of his personal history – he reacted in a way that engenders disrespect. Rather than stop the cycle with new behavior, he made another contribution to this self-perpetuated reality further distancing himself from his desire to be respected and acknowledged.

 

This is the prison of Karma. Somewhere in his past our employee made a decision that life is unfair and people overlook him. When our thinking or interpretation of a situation leads us to negative emotions, which lead us to non-supporting actions, we have no power or control over our lives. We are trapped in the memory of interpretations of past events which have nothing to do with the current situation, the present moment.

 

One powerful way to bypass the prison of your own perspective is to consciously observe your thoughts, emotions and actions. Challenge your interpretation of events instead of justifying them. Communicate truthfully with yourself and others. Try this exercise the next time you find yourself suddenly recreating past negative patterns:

 

1. Ask yourself, “What just happened?” Describe the incident without judgment.

 

2. Observe your feelings without evaluating them. Be sure to distinguish your thoughts from feelings. For example, don’t say “I feel as if you should have known better” when the truth is “I feel sad.” Sadness is a feeling; feeling that someone should have known better is a thought.

 

3. Take responsibility for your feelings. What others say to us may be the stimulus for how we feel, but it’s never the cause. We choose to feel a certain way based on the interpretation we give to their comment. Do not accept judgment from others or blame them. Begin to focus on your own feelings and acknowledge your needs, desires, expectations, values and thoughts.

 

4. Don’t be afraid to ask for what you need, and use positive language when making requests. Instead of blaming your spouse for your feelings of neglect, try saying “Honey, I’m sad that you spend so much time at the office, but I really enjoy it when you have dinner at home with the kids and me. I would love if you would come home early enough to have dinner with us at least one night a week.” Clearly requesting what you want is much more effective than accusing your spouse of spending too much time at the office and casting blame for not spending enough time with the family. Can you feel the difference?

It’s not easy erasing negative karma, and you may find yourself slipping more than once. But remember that this is a lifelong process, and every new day provides plenty of opportunity for you to change your perspective — and, by extension, your reality.

NASH FLASH

INTENTION

The Intelligence responsible for all experience is literal and exact. It does not discern a loftier intention from sarcasm or self-deprecating humor.

Your words become self-fulfilling prophecy.

THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

NASH FLASH

BLAME

This is a tool of the ignorant.  When two magnets are drawn together, which magnet is at fault?

THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

NASH FLASH

The burden of the discipline

remains constant or lessens with consistency;

the burden of avoiding it increases 

exponentially over time.

“The fastest, surest way to self-love is self-discipline.”

– Alphie

THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

NASH FLASH

Discipline is freedom.

Discipline frees us from the bonds of slavery to a merciless master:

seeking pleasure and avoiding pain.

When we are undisciplined and “blow-off” our homework, our diet, our exercise or (fill in the blank) in favor of some instant gratification – we set ourselves further back from realizing the true joy – the goal.  The more we avoid the initial “pain” of the associated discipline, the greater the burden we carry around daily.


THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed

NASH FLASH

Motive is EVERYTHING.

Prior to taking any action of significance, be quite sure that you know why you are doing it.

If you are hoping or praying for something to happen, be very clear about why this is so important to you.

The underlying motive WILL prevail.

THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed