Today I introduce the third essential tool to help you overcome self-defeating behavior.
With consistent practice of these simple habits, your thoughts, words and deeds can and will match what is in your heart!
You’ve learned to observe without judgement, revisit your regrettable decisions reflecting on what lead to the choices you made, and what you might have done differently and now it is time to excavate the source of your counter-productive choices and figure out why your hot buttons are so hot. Dig deep. Head into your discomfort. Come to terms with your vulnerability, and you will find yourself responding to life’s problems with confidence and poise.
If you seek to align your thoughts and actions, excavation is a crucial, necessary step.
Week 4 EXCAVATION Click on the image to watch the video.
Today I introduce the second essential tool to help you
• direct your thoughts
• bridle your mouth
• approve of your ownbehavior
Your thoughts, words and deeds can and will match what is in your heart consistently!
We’ve learned to observe without judgement, and now it is time to revisit our decisions. Ask yourself what lead to the choices you made, and what you might have done differently. Reflection is the second step to aligning your thoughts and actions.
Week 3 REFLECTION Click on the image to watch the video.
Today I discuss a crucial tool to help you align your mind, body and spirit.
Simply take note of your surroundings, your environment, your thoughts, reactions, and feelings. No judging, no reporting, no resolving. Awareness is the first step to aligning your thoughts and actions.
The second point: THE BRAIN CANNOT DISCERN FACT FROM FANTASY.
This is why we have emotional and physical reactions to stories being played out on a movie screen – and to situations throughout our day that actually have nothing to do with us. Exhaustive scientific research has failed to locate the consciousness (aka awareness, presence, thinker, observer, conscience, etc.) that appears from time to time throughout the movie – and throughout our day – to remind the brain of the truth.
FEAR = Fantasized Evil Appearing Real
Most people have not been trained to cultivate and keep up a disciplined connection with this presence or “present moment awareness.” As a result they have very little power to control the behavior of their conditioned mind. Events from the past leave an imprint on the brain. Later when seemingly similar circumstances present themselves, the brain will issue warning signals. If we are not paying attention (present/aware) we will believe the brain’s interpretation of imminent danger and react accordingly. We are re-acting the plot from a situation that may have happened years ago and have no relevance to the current situation whatsoever! If we are in the moment, we open ourselves to the possibility of a different interpretation. We can choose to respond differently and experience an entirely different outcome. When we respond we pause to respire and ponder.
Present moment awareness frees me from being held hostage by my past.
I have cut out and posted on my fridge a full-page Nike print adds that simply says, “LEAP AND THE NET WILL APPEAR.” These words are superimposed over a photograph of a woman jumping over what she seems to believe is a body of water. From the reader’s angle, it is clear that she is really just clearing a puddle!
So, here I go…
I have brought you my first in a series of video blogs designed to help you gain peace of mind regardless of your circumstances. It is located near the top of the right-hand sidebar on this page. I hope you’ll watch, subscribe, tune into my blog for associated tools and exercises as well as listen and subscribe to my weekly podcast.
I have also included a link to a video I posted on Facebook at the beginning of the year to hold myself accountable to myself. Today I am following through. To see my very first video blog post, click on this thumbnail:
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