Be —> Lieve
You are living (being) the sum total of your beliefs.
We must be equal (in thought, word and deed) to any desire before we will live with it.
You are living (being) the sum total of your beliefs.
We must be equal (in thought, word and deed) to any desire before we will live with it.
Be certain you want to keep revisiting a memory – the energy the memory evokes is an electromagnetic attractor field. If you cannot visit a memory without becoming sad, bitter or anxious…why would you want to attract more of it?
Just before Christmas when I was 7 years old my dad died and I experienced a life altering paradigm shift. It was as if the curtains closed at the end of an act on the stage of my life and when they reopened, the scenery had completely changed leaving me feeling unsafe and bewildered. As a result, I can rationalize, deny and forget anything. It is a mechanism I employed to make sense my unfathomable reality. It helped me survive the grief and terror that threatened my sanity for decades and felt life threatening. I thought I was safe in my head even though I knew on some subconscious level that I didn’t feel safe. This ‘survival’ mechanism carried me until I was 35 years old when it backfired for the last time.
At the age of 35 I experienced another paradigm shift. I could no longer escape my reality. I had to embark on that treacherous journey from my head, where I rationalized my experiences, to my heart, where I began realizing them. When I ‘surrendered’ and began processing my crippling feelings of grief, rage, shame, resentment, etc., something amazing happened. I learned that the seemingly miraculous solution to any of my ‘problems’ is contained within my deepest fears! When I began to feel the feelings I had resisted, I made some critical discoveries:
I can think of many examples in life when I ignored the wisdom of my IGS and paid a steep price. One obvious example was in my early twenties when I took a job as a mortgage-backed securities bond broker. I was about to become the only woman on a dog-eat-dog bond-trading floor. I had many reasons for taking the job despite a nagging ‘sinking’ feeling. I was unable to show up for my first week on the job because I had colitis, which in retrospect was my IGS on overdrive, desperately trying to get my attention. I had stuffed every emotion that surfaced before and after taking the job because I was in survival mode. I felt that I had to stuff the grief associated with selling my soul to survive because I believed I had to take that job. The disease I developed as a result of my dis-ease with my decision forced me stop physically. But since I refused to stop mentally long enough to just be in the present moment, I delayed my discovery of true Power.
I was extremely ‘successful” and convinced myself that I was in control (happy, safe and secure). I went on compromising my integrity for years saying and doing things that made me so uncomfortable I could hardly stand in my skin…another feeling I worked at denying ! Every year it became more difficult to contain all the trapped energy of my repressed emotions. Finally at age 35, I reached the tipping point. Choices I made (albeit unconsciously) resulted in a situation that I would typically have denied, but at that particular moment, I could not house another emotion without imploding. As a result, I accepted reality in the moment and suddenly, in touch with true Power, all my walls collapsed instantly and I stepped into this new miraculous paradigm.
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You’ve learned to observe without judgement, revisit your regrettable decisions reflecting on what lead to the choices you made, and what you might have done differently and now it is time to excavate the source of your counter-productive choices and figure out why your hot buttons are so hot. Dig deep. Head into your discomfort. Come to terms with your vulnerability, and you will find yourself responding to life’s problems with confidence and poise.
If you seek to align your thoughts and actions, excavation is a crucial, necessary step.
We’ve learned to observe without judgement, and now it is time to revisit our decisions. Ask yourself what lead to the choices you made, and what you might have done differently. Reflection is the second step to aligning your thoughts and actions.
Simply take note of your surroundings, your environment, your thoughts, reactions, and feelings. No judging, no reporting, no resolving. Awareness is the first step to aligning your thoughts and actions.
The second point: THE BRAIN CANNOT DISCERN FACT FROM FANTASY.
This is why we have emotional and physical reactions to stories being played out on a movie screen – and to situations throughout our day that actually have nothing to do with us. Exhaustive scientific research has failed to locate the consciousness (aka awareness, presence, thinker, observer, conscience, etc.) that appears from time to time throughout the movie – and throughout our day – to remind the brain of the truth.
FEAR = Fantasized Evil Appearing Real
Most people have not been trained to cultivate and keep up a disciplined connection with this presence or “present moment awareness.” As a result they have very little power to control the behavior of their conditioned mind. Events from the past leave an imprint on the brain. Later when seemingly similar circumstances present themselves, the brain will issue warning signals. If we are not paying attention (present/aware) we will believe the brain’s interpretation of imminent danger and react accordingly. We are re-acting the plot from a situation that may have happened years ago and have no relevance to the current situation whatsoever! If we are in the moment, we open ourselves to the possibility of a different interpretation. We can choose to respond differently and experience an entirely different outcome. When we respond we pause to respire and ponder.
Present moment awareness frees me from being held hostage by my past.
I have cut out and posted on my fridge a full-page Nike print adds that simply says, “LEAP AND THE NET WILL APPEAR.” These words are superimposed over a photograph of a woman jumping over what she seems to believe is a body of water. From the reader’s angle, it is clear that she is really just clearing a puddle!
So, here I go…
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is the result of identifying ourselves with the roles we play,
our relationships, where we live and how we do things.
It comes from defining ourselves by our possessions.
THE DAILY MANDALA by Henry Reed
Ironically, following the path of Love is the only route to true, sustainable power. Seeking power through control and/or domination over people, places and things usually works…temporarily. This behavior can, and usually does, provide instant gratification and a [false] sense of security. The thrill of “success” releases endorphins and the association between domination and pleasure gets wired in our nervous system! The problem with this type of power is that it in not sustainable. In addition, exacting power by deflating and depleting others comes with a very steep price. Requiring constant vigilance, it is exhausting and inefficient. Neither the jailer nor the prisoner is free. Furthermore, what seems on the surface like a win, is in fact, another step closer to utter failure. The animus released every time someone loses in order that another prospers builds like an untreated disease. The power-grabber ultimately gets taken down one way or another, mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually, financially, etc. Addicted to instant gratification and demonstrable, measurable cause and effect, the power addict usually slips into a comfortable denial, utterly incapable of recognizing direct responsibility for their dis-ease. The person who is motivated by empowering and inspiring others has true Power. Individuals with this expansive perspective stand out in sharp contrast to the constriction felt around takers. These individuals have magnetism – the power of attraction. They listen to their inner guide (aka conscience)- which will ALWAYS make the loving, empowering choice. The resulting goodwill from others as well as their own self-respect multiplies. The subtle impact of their generosity pays dividends all the days of their lives. It is the fool that doesn’t engage the power o Love in all human interaction.
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To get the life you want, you need be in the flow of life—in other words, you need to be capable of both receiving and letting go in order to receive again. This is the key: in order to receive again, you have to let go. Using the abusive parent example, if we let go of resentment we are open to receive love and nurturing from wherever it may come. In reality that’s all we really desired, hidden underneath the anger.
We can literally let go of illness as well. We cling to our arthritis, our rheumatism, our sinus congestion, migraines, heartburn, ad infinitum. “My aching <insert body part>!” is a favorite lament of many. Unless we stop giving these conditions such a prominent presence in our lives, we will not be open to receive healing. The way to let go is to figure out just what negative process you’re hanging on to that expresses itself physically through your ailment.
Everything is constantly changing, flowing and evolving. The tree provides the oxygen which literally gives us life and in return we give the tree carbon dioxide that gives it life. We don’t hoard oxygen because we are afraid that one day there won’t be enough for us.
Right now, as you read this, take as deep a breath as you can and hold it. Do not exhale. Hold it as long as you possibly can. Can you feel the burning in your lungs? Hoarding oxygen is in direct opposition to the natural energetic flow of life so it causes discomfort, “dis-ease” if you will. Notice how uncomfortable you feel when you are holding on to aspects of your life that are meant to be let go. Our resistance to change in a universe where the only constant is change is not only inefficient and creating exactly what we do not want, it is insane! To say no to change is to say no to life.
Now exhale as fully as you can. Keep your lungs emptied for as long as you can stand it. Again, do you feel the discomfort that is caused by a refusal to receive? Similarly if you hoard money, it will stagnate and coagulate in your life. The word “affluence” comes from the root “affluere” which means “to flow.” The word affluence means to flow in abundance. Money is a symbol of the life-force; it is a symbol of an exchange of services or values that we provide to the universe. In order to get money you must give something of value. Without giving there is no receiving, and vice versa.
If you are pursuing money for the sake of power or security or some other self-serving cause, you are cutting yourself off from the dynamic flow of the universe. You must be willing to circulate your money so that you will attract more money to you. As soon as you give it, you create a vacuum to receive more. And as long as you know this and are not violating any of the other laws, more will come.
For example, if you are giving in order to get, you’re doing it out of fear you won’t have money in the future. The return will reflect this fear-based motive. Ignorance of the true Source creates the belief or fear that you are losing something when you spend money. This is equivalent to believing that your Source of abundance and affluence is limited. You are giving your energy to what you do not want. This weakened life condition will send out a low vibration picked up by the Source as a request for more of the same.
This does not mean that we should spend irresponsibly thinking that the more we give, the more we will get. It means that you are willing and grateful to pay for services rendered and enjoy responsibly the resources that you have. Sure, there are people who hoard money, and as a result they have a lot of it. However, their unwillingness to let go causes discomfort in other areas of their lives, and undermines the very reason they wanted the money in the first place: security. Furthermore, they are most likely preventing themselves from even greater fortune. Imagine a funnel: if you plug up the hole in the bottom, it limits how much can be absorbed by that particular vessel. If you want to receive money you need to give it.
Pretend you are in a large room with twenty people and the power goes out. There is no light, and no heat. Everyone has candles but yours is the only one that’s lit and there are no matches. Does it make any sense to hoard your source of light and warmth? If you walk around the room and light everyone’s candle, you will have more than you started with. And when you finish lighting everyone’s candle and look down at your own, you realize it hasn’t diminished one bit!
Hoarding harms the one who is hoarding. When you hoard, you get a lot of what you are hoarding; but you don’t get what you really want: peace of mind. The habit of hoarding is caused by an underlying fear, which is what you will continue to attract if you maintain that habit.
If you aren’t able to understand that you are an energetic being vibrating at a frequency that attracts similar energy, you are likely to believe that everything in your life is caused by external factors and is beyond your control. This belief can cause you to mis-create. For example, when someone cuts you off on the freeway, you may feel like an angry victim if you are unaware that your impatience with your partner earlier that morning paved the way for this highway exchange. Yes, your own energy made room in your life for that negativity!
Giving and receiving don’t have to come from the same place. If you send the pendulum in one direction it will return in direct proportion. This silent system is at work below the surface of things. If you do not accept this, you will always feel like an innocent victim with no power over your life. Awareness helps you see that, at the subtle subatomic level, you are causing the situations of your life to happen. If you don’t like being treated poorly, you will be careful not to treat others poorly.
Have you heard people say “It’s not my fault I’m unhappy, I had a bad childhood/spouse/employer”? Or maybe “I can’t ever be happy unless <insert name> changes their attitude.” Well, it’s time to put your life–and happiness–back in the hands of the only person who really understands you.
When you know the true source of everything in life and are able to access and use it, you are empowered. You are no longer at the mercy of chance and fortune. You are not a victim of circumstances; instead, you are the creator of your own life, responsible for everything you experience.
This notion of responsibility for your circumstances can be difficult for anyone to accept. You can imagine people will argue that they’re not responsible for their illness, or for the abuse they suffered from their parents. They might say “I didn’t choose this. I did nothing to deserve it, nor did I ask for it.” But this way of thinking doesn’t serve you in any positive way. Why? If you continue to act as a hapless victim of some arbitrary intelligence, you remain powerless over your own life.
Furthermore, look around you. There is far too much evidence of order in the universe for the events in your life to be random. Intelligence is present in all arenas of life. This means that everything we experience, good and bad, is a result of natural law. What happens to us makes sense based on what has come before in our lives, or the lives of people affecting us.
The good news is, once you remove the cover of ignorance and helplessness and accept that you alone are responsible for your circumstances, you can change them. It is absolutely imperative that you be open to receive the information about your responsibility for all the circumstances of your life, in order to empower yourself to change it.
When you become open-minded and willing to accept the fact you are creating your reality, you can easily learn how to create it intentionally. In order to create this reality, you need to know how. That’s H-O-W (Honest, Open-minded, and Willing.) In the next article we’ll look at nature’s role in the constant transformation of matter, and how the Source can work either for or against us depending on our own thoughts.
Natural law applies to every sentient being. It allows you to tap into your true potential more easily and lead a more fulfilling, successful life. This law guides your destiny every moment of your life, and acts according to the choices you make.
So what is this “natural law”? It’s the process through which change happens, when potential is actualized. According to Deepak Chopra, it’s “the process by which the observer becomes the observed and…by which the seer becomes the seen.” The definition of this law assumes the following:
In order to create sustainable change and be successful in life, you need to understand how change happens in the universe so you can use this knowledge of natural law to your advantage—rather than constantly battling against it.
Success can be defined in several ways:
Discovering where you are in life physically, emotionally, and psychologically will help you determine what you’d like to improve and achieve on your path to success.